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Breaking news:
Girls actually love nice guys, it’s just that you’re not as nice a guy as you think you are.
I find this really hard to believe, as every time I’m interested in a girl she ends up with an asshole and I end up friendzoned or worse.
Imagine being the *exact* type of guy a post was aimed at, but somehow remaining blissfully unaware of that fact…
You know, ever since this stupid little post exploded this past summer, I’ve been thoroughly amused watching people argue in the notes about what it does and doesn’t mean. I guess it’s time to spell it out.
Things this post definitely *does not* mean:
- That all a guy needs for a girl to like him is to be nice.
- That nobody is as nice as they think they are
- That “niceness” is a qualifier for everyone
- That all girls like the same thing
- That all girls like guys
- That I’m a particularly nice guy
- That girls like doormats
Things this post absolutely *does* mean:
- The popular ideas that “women only like assholes” and “being a decent human being and treating someone else like a human being will immediately disqualify a guy from female attention” are toxic as shit and categorically false, and that furthermore if your version of being “nice” is just a series of performative gestures that you’re only doing in order to win affection, you aren’t actually a nice person.
I hope this clears things up, folks 😂
-LMS
it ok to not be ready
Please spread this shit like wildfire. People go on and sit through the whole experience and they’re uncomfortable because they just want to please their partner and they don’t tell them that they want to stop because they are not ready. It’s okay not to be ready.
notice here that consent is revoked without ever saying no and consent goes so far beyond yes/no!!!!!!
